Well, I'm here, in the middle of the night or perhaps morning, thinking of writing a post about my research for my psychology paper tutorial essay, " Distinguish between Romantic(passionate) Love and Companionate Love. " Done few hours surfing the net and reading some blogs and articles about passionate love and companionate love. Honestly, to me, to write a formal essay is way much difficult than to post something on my blog ! So I decide not to do my essay but write it on my blog ! hahaha.
There are a lot of different definitions and real-life stories wrote by various authors on the Internet about passionate and companionate love. Kinda agree with Dr. David's point of views in his article. The ultimate form of love, complete and perfect love, not easily can be achieved or maintained but is possible to attain in relationship. Desire and sustained effort of both people in a relationship to attain is the keys toward a deeper feeling of love. Why I do Italic-ed the word "attain" ? There might be possibility to fail attain when one of them, quit or give up too fast when is time to resolve obstacles and show their connectedness to each other.
If you were to ask me which one do I prefer, I would say, Companionate Love. Everyone knows what's the meaning of passion. Passionate love comes on quickly and fades as time goes by. Companionate love grows more slowly over the years as lovers rely upon, care for, and trust each other. I would say is interdependent and binding two people together involving friendship, understanding, a concern for the other, and especially, love.
Compared to passionate love in the early stage of a relationship, I would strongly agree, with my past experience, I realized companionate love looks weak and can easily causes someone to let go when the fire of passionate love strike the human's heart. But what if the time scale are extend, well, there might be possibility that passionate love can turn to companionate love?, but in my point of view, passionate love will fade and fails when the time comes, simply a thought.
Maybe I'm the kind of person who like love to grow through feelings, closeness, connectedness, and trust. Intimacy is the stage where I failed to do and sustain but I'll still believe that developing a strong feeling relationship need a lot of time and trust connected with the strong feelings are probably the most important ingredients.
Months ago, last semester, someone told me that, " hey boy, you shouldn't take the timing and the amount of time you took/put and how long you both were into a relationship." when I was facing one of my terrible time in life. By that time, I was too emotional and agreed on what he said as his age is few years older than me. No offence to him, he might got his own perceptions but for now, I still believe that timing and lifetime durability are the period of time that builds the trust, strong feelings, and with some added passion between two people who are firmly committed to one another.
No matter passionate love is just a flash in the pan or so called a little spark by someone, I'll still create an emotional space for you, my friends, and my next beloved partner to express her feelings and opinions on this. Who knows I might be trapped in a passionate love in future? lol. But so far, companionate love is a kind of love that brings me intimacy and satisfaction with my loved one.
So, . . . . . I hope that I'm not killing my own hope on a lasting love yet ? hopefully . . . hopefully . . .
=)
“We’re never so vulnerable than when we trust someone – but paradoxically, if we cannot trust, neither can we find love or joy.” ~ Walter AndersonThere are a lot of different definitions and real-life stories wrote by various authors on the Internet about passionate and companionate love. Kinda agree with Dr. David's point of views in his article. The ultimate form of love, complete and perfect love, not easily can be achieved or maintained but is possible to attain in relationship. Desire and sustained effort of both people in a relationship to attain is the keys toward a deeper feeling of love. Why I do Italic-ed the word "attain" ? There might be possibility to fail attain when one of them, quit or give up too fast when is time to resolve obstacles and show their connectedness to each other.
If you were to ask me which one do I prefer, I would say, Companionate Love. Everyone knows what's the meaning of passion. Passionate love comes on quickly and fades as time goes by. Companionate love grows more slowly over the years as lovers rely upon, care for, and trust each other. I would say is interdependent and binding two people together involving friendship, understanding, a concern for the other, and especially, love.
Compared to passionate love in the early stage of a relationship, I would strongly agree, with my past experience, I realized companionate love looks weak and can easily causes someone to let go when the fire of passionate love strike the human's heart. But what if the time scale are extend, well, there might be possibility that passionate love can turn to companionate love?, but in my point of view, passionate love will fade and fails when the time comes, simply a thought.
Maybe I'm the kind of person who like love to grow through feelings, closeness, connectedness, and trust. Intimacy is the stage where I failed to do and sustain but I'll still believe that developing a strong feeling relationship need a lot of time and trust connected with the strong feelings are probably the most important ingredients.
Months ago, last semester, someone told me that, " hey boy, you shouldn't take the timing and the amount of time you took/put and how long you both were into a relationship." when I was facing one of my terrible time in life. By that time, I was too emotional and agreed on what he said as his age is few years older than me. No offence to him, he might got his own perceptions but for now, I still believe that timing and lifetime durability are the period of time that builds the trust, strong feelings, and with some added passion between two people who are firmly committed to one another.
No matter passionate love is just a flash in the pan or so called a little spark by someone, I'll still create an emotional space for you, my friends, and my next beloved partner to express her feelings and opinions on this. Who knows I might be trapped in a passionate love in future? lol. But so far, companionate love is a kind of love that brings me intimacy and satisfaction with my loved one.
So, . . . . . I hope that I'm not killing my own hope on a lasting love yet ? hopefully . . . hopefully . . .
=)
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